Unsolicited judgments reveal more about the person making them than about you: here’s how to handle the fear of others’ judgment (and stop caring so much).
How many times have you felt judged by a friend, a neighbor, or your own family? The issue of judgment concerns everyone in one way or another, and the only way not to fall victim to it is to know how to handle the fear of others’ judgment and learn to take only the good from it (when there is any).
There is indeed a big difference between those who take it personally, those who can easily let go, and those who – more or less easily – can detach themselves from what others think.
The most sensitive will struggle to accept it, but we live in a world woven with relationships and, therefore, easily subjected to external observations.
So, what can you do? Learn to protect yourself by better understanding the phenomenon.
How to Handle the Fear of Others’ Judgment and Live Happily
What People Say Speaks About Them (More Than You)
You have to keep in mind that when people give a judgment, they are not talking about you but about rather about themselves.
“I would do, if I were you, you should” are all openings that reveal what the person would have done in your place.
Here lies the difficulty because – spoiler alert – you are not her/him.
If you have acted in a certain way, you most likely have your good reasons.
There is No Right Thing to Do
We are often affected by the words of others because, in our minds, there are conditioning factors.
In other words, inside us, there are concepts of right and wrong, and when our choices deviate, insecurity comes to cast doubts.
Will it be the right choice? Or is it better to do what everyone else does?
It happens that just a half-word from someone – even a stranger – is enough to make us doubt even more about what we are doing.
There is nothing universally right or wrong (unless it concerns legal matters).
There is only what makes us feel good or not, and this depends solely on us.
Always Ask Yourself Why This Person is Speaking
When you listen to others’ opinions, you should always ask yourself why that person is telling you that particular thing.
Sometimes people speak based on their experience, other times on thoughts that belong to a generation different from ours, such as parents, for example.
Few times people give opinions thinking about us.
Certainly! Here’s a reformulation:
If the person you’re sharing your thoughts with seeks clarification by asking questions rather than offering specific answers, it’s advisable to lend an ear and listen attentively.
Otherwise, be careful; they are still talking about themselves.
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