Overcoming disappointment is not easy, and if you’re reading these lines, you’re probably feeling very hurt.
You find yourself in a new dimension to manage, new paths to take, perhaps a new reality you didn’t know.
Those who experience disappointment in love, friendship, or even in their work go through an initial moment of disorientation.
“Now what do I do?” This is the main question we ask ourselves, and it doesn’t have an immediate answer.
Then, if everything goes well, sadness from disappointment sets in, followed by anger, which will be the driving force to finally move on.
Often, these two emotions alternate, bringing waves of struggle and indecipherable questions.
We’ll explain how to overcome disappointment and start feeling good again about yourself and others.
3 Useful Strategies to Overcome Disappointment
You Need to Experience the Pain, but Give Yourself Time To Do So
What we’re about to tell you isn’t fun, but it remains the only way to move on from disappointments.
The pain you feel is real because in that relationship of any kind you invested expectations, desires, perhaps plans or dreams to share.
If it’s the other person who decided for you, you must face this moment of pain.
Embrace the pain, suffer, but give yourself time to do so, and then return to your day.
Don’t ignore the pain; manage it, or it might take up much more space than you think.
Talk to Someone
Other people might help you feel better; you might find the comfort you need, but it’s not just that.
Engaging with others, especially those who can be objective and introspective, can help you ask yourself the right questions.
You may not always find the answers you’re looking for or that you like, but this process will help you become more aware of the situation and give meaning to what still seems impossible to believe.
When we’re in a lot of pain, we lose clarity, and others can become those eyes that help us see things as they are.
To Overcome Disappointment, Focus on Yourselves
It might sound like a cliché, but it’s rare to understand the value of focusing entirely on oneself.
People who are disappointed tend to keep thinking about the other person and leave little space for themselves.
In the period immediately after disappointment, it’s easier for the mind paradoxically to focus on the one who caused it, and thus we end up forgetting about ourselves.
You’ve been let down, perhaps betrayed or deceived, but remember that you’re still here.
Focus on yourselves, turn your attention to those who love you, and engage in activities that make you feel good.
In time, the pain will give way to freedom.
This article first appeared on Grazia.it- author: Elisa Castellano
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