If you find yourself getting jealous even of your aunt, perhaps it’s time to learn to control your jealousy. But how can you stop being jealous?
Jealousy can indeed jeopardize a relationship to the point of becoming a reason to end it. It doesn’t only harm the partner; the jealous person also experiences deep suffering: doubts, suspicions, and alerts are the order of the day, and they often can’t even enjoy the moments spent together.
However, learning to trust isn’t everyone’s nature, and jealousy can result from various factors, with the foremost being having been hurt in a past relationship.
So, here’s how to learn to control jealousy and have a healthy and fulfilling romantic relationship.
How to Stop Being Jealous in 4 Steps
1. Break Free from Past Experiences
Jealousy may be triggered by past experiences in which you were betrayed or in which you betrayed someone.
Having direct experience of betrayal can make the possibility of it happening again seem even more concrete.
If you’ve been a cheater in the past, you might feel these sensations even more intensely.
Be careful, the past doesn’t define the present.
Make sure to distinguish reality from experiences that are now concluded, and don’t let these experiences influence you.
Every relationship is unique.
2. Give Each Other Some Alone Time
Jealousy can also be driven by certain beliefs.
For instance, if you are convinced that your partner should focus solely on you and that you should always be at the top of their thoughts, you will be disappointed.
A happy person should feel free to dedicate time to themselves and not always to the relationship.
This will make both of you feel freer, and the relationship will significantly improve.
3. How to Stop Being Jealous? Boost Your Self-esteem
Jealousy stems from insecurity.
If you aren’t secure in your own self-worth, whatever your partner does to show love will never be enough to keep you from reaching for their phone screen at the first ring to see who’s calling.
They’ve chosen you, express your doubts when they make sense, and let go.
The more you believe in yourselves, the better your relationship will be.
4. Accept That Your Partner Isn’t Perfect
Your partner is a human being and, therefore, imperfect.
Don’t expect them to always say or do the right thing.
They may make mistakes and do things you don’t like, but you can point them out without necessarily accusing them.
Jealous people often tend to exaggerate events, fearing that there may be intentions behind them that differ from those declared.
Try to see what happens for what it really is, seek advice from an objective friend, and help yourself not to dwell on negative thoughts.
**Non-attachment could be the key to a successful and happy love life**
**Thriving couples don’t post their photos on social media**
This article first appeared on grazia.it — Author: Elisa Castellano
