“Summer wouldn’t be the same without flings born under the stars, which fill vacations with butterflies in the stomach and are packed with promises. But how can you tell if he likes you or if it’s just been a fling?
Experts from Guidapsicologi.it have compiled a list of signals to help interpret behaviors and circumstances to discover if there’s more than just passion.
How to Tell if He Really Likes You (or If It’s Just a Fling)
Call or Not Call?
This is the main rule: no matter what strategies you might use, it holds true in August just as it does in November. If there’s real interest, he will call eventually.
No shyness can win against desire: if the long-awaited call doesn’t come, nor a message on the endless array of social networks available, it’s likely to be just a fling.
In this case, the healthiest attitude is to avoid getting your hopes up and not try to concoct elaborate explanations for the missed call. Doing so risks falling into a vicious cycle that could ruin your summer. Either you accept the situation for what it is, enjoying it carefree and without false expectations, or it’s better to cut it off right away.
Try to See You at Every Opportunity
If, while he’s with you, his main concern is planning the evening with friends, something’s off.
At the beginning, what you want is to spend as much time together as possible.
If he’s busy scheduling a series of appointments one after the other, leaving little time for you, it’s likely you haven’t yet made it to the top of his thoughts.
You might get there, but are we sure this isn’t a one-sided investment? Be cautious.
How Much Time Does He Spend on Social Media?
You’re together, you have time to focus on each other and get to know one another better, and what does he do? Starts scrolling through Instagram? Checks likes and comments between reposts and direct messages? Let’s not nurture false hopes.
There’s no phone addict who can’t put their device down in front of a real opportunity for a relationship—provided he feels something.
If that doesn’t happen, it’s likely a sign of marginal interest in your potential relationship. But if it’s due to smartphone addiction, it’s still an important red flag indicating potential future issues. Best to avoid it.
What Did He Do After Your First Night Together?
Someone who’s interested won’t disappear. Various circumstances might prevent immediate communication, like urgent commitments that keep him busy for the next 24 hours. However, eventually, the situation resolves itself with a call or message, likely including a request to meet again soon.
If this doesn’t happen, there’s no need to torment yourself with questions and hypotheses about what might have happened. He got what he wanted and that’s enough for him. No problem, just turn the page. It’s just a fling then.
How Long Has It Been Since His Last Relationship?
Be cautious—these are the most dangerous types, especially in summer. They bring a variety of risks to those in their orbit.
They often struggle to be alone and cling to anyone to fill their voids. In many cases, they’re just looking to have fun, still affected by their previous relationship, and avoid any commitment, even minimal.
Does He Suggest Plans for After Summer?
You shouldn’t jump to conclusions, but in general, this is a sign of interest.
If he’s not just talking about the next few days but goes further—maybe considering the possibility of a weekend getaway together when life returns to normal—there are grounds to think that his interest in you isn’t limited to a couple of passionate encounters. Only time will be able to confirm this theory.
Does He Share Photos of You Together?
On one hand, you might be a source of pride or bait to make an ex or someone special jealous. More simply, it could mean he’s happy with what you’re experiencing together and wants to share it.
He has nothing to hide and is a free person. That’s great news. The fling has sparks!
Transparency and honesty are fundamental starting points for beginning a relationship, not just in love.
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