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PARIS, FRANCE – OCTOBER 20: Emily Ratajkowski attends the Kerastase Pop Party hotocall at Centre Pompidou on October 20, 2022 in Paris, France. (Photo by Kristy Sparow/Getty Images)

The first episode of Emily Ratajkowski‘s High Low with Em Rata podcast, has hit the internet and the star didn’t hold back for her first topic. In a segment called “EmRata Asks”, Ratajkowski raised the question: Should you have sex on the first date?

It’s a topic the newly-single model says she has been considering since her return to the dating scene in September this year. The My Body author revealed that since her split from ex-husband Sebastian Bear-McClard a few months ago, she has been single and actively dating – which has led to a number of theories about men.

“There are babies, there are monsters, and then there are baby monsters,” she proposed. “The babies are the men who need to be tended to and reassured at every turn. The monsters who are like, ‘Sorry that your mom died, but want to come over?’ And then the third are the worst… and those are the men that I can’t handle. They need reassurance, they need to be cradled and suckle at the teat. But then they’re also like, ‘Leave me alone though, woman.'”

Relatable, to say the least. Ratajkowski also delved into her current dating life, which included a recent experience that supported her theory. “This week I particularly had an interaction with a baby and then with a…he’s either a baby or a baby monster,” she told best friend Barbara Knapp, who is also single and joined the star on the first episode to debate the topic.

Ratajkowski and Knapp shared their experiences of having sex with someone on the very first date, including whether or not it impacts the dynamic between men and women afterward. “I’ve been thinking about this a lot because it speaks so much to power dynamics and sex on the first date is the ultimate example of that because you’re dealing with gender dynamics in such a specific little vacuum of a moment,” the model shared. “I think If you’re not ready to be vulnerable, that is a reason not to have sex on the first date.”

The star admitted that she sometimes feels like hooking with a guy straight away can take a toll on her. “Even when I’m like, ‘This was a fun night, I don’t care if this person and I ever interact again,’ I still hate when I feel like there’s a part of them that feels like, ‘Yeah, I hit that’ kind of vibe. Even if they’re not the kind of guy who would say that out loud but you can just feel it. That’s a reason not to sleep with a man.”

She continued, “I go on these dates and it’s not like I’m going to sleep with someone and then I’m more vulnerable to fall in love, but I feel more, I think about them more. If I don’t sleep with them, I think about them less. I can forget them in three days.”

Ultimately Ratajkowski and Knapp advised listeners to tune in to their feelings when it came to sex on the first date. “I think the conclusion we’ve come to is that you should do whatever the hell you want to do. But knowing what it is that you want to do is really hard. That’s the hard work,” said Ratajkowski, who recalled a recent first date where she felt comfortable to take control.

“I went on a date, and we had kissed. Then we were crossing the street and there was this moment where I want to be kissed,” she recalled of a recent first date. “And I kind of grabbed him and kissed him. He was like, ‘This is the kind of feminism I can get down with’,” she said, (noting she didn’t love his comment!)

“What I’m starting to take away is that we just need to stop caring if they like us or not, we have to let go of the validation, and the power that that gives them,” concluded the Gone Girl star. “Because, who the f–k are they to make us feel any one way or another about ourselves?”

Amen to that!

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