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Psychology Says People Who Can’t Throw Things Away Often Share One Trait, and It Has More to Do With Fear of Mistakes Than Clutter<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

The drawer of jar lids, the box of old cards, the sweater that might fit again someday. Psychology says it is not really about the stuff.\u00a0<\/span><\/i>Picture this: it is a Sunday, and you have promised yourself you will finally clear out the hall closet. An hour later, the closet is still full, and you are sitting on the floor holding a birthday card from 2009. You put it back. Just in case.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If that sounds familiar, you are in good company, and researchers have been studying the pattern for decades. In 1993, psychologists Randy O. Frost and R. C. Gross published “The hoarding of possessions” in the journal Behaviour Research and Therapy. Across three studies of college students and community volunteers, they looked at people who find it hard to let go of objects, and what else they had in common.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Trait Behind the Clutter<\/b><\/h2>\n

The answer surprised many people. Saving things was not related to past material deprivation. Instead, it was linked to indecisiveness and perfectionism, especially a concern about making mistakes and being judged. People who held on to more possessions also tended to buy extra items so they would never run out, and carried more “just-in-case” items in their bags, pockets and cars.<\/span><\/p>\n

Frost and Gross proposed a simple explanation. Keeping things works as a form of avoidance. If you never decide to throw something away, you never have to face the worry that you might be making the wrong choice.<\/span><\/p>\n

Which Saver Are You?<\/b><\/h2>\n

The Sentimental Keepers hold on to cards, ticket stubs and children’s drawings, because each one carries a memory. The Just-in-Case Planners save jar lids, cables and spare buttons, because one day they will surely be needed. The Someday Dreamers keep the sweater, the craft kit or the book they will read when life slows down. All three share the same knot: the decision feels heavier than the object.<\/span><\/p>\n

When It Is Worth Paying Attention<\/b><\/h2>\n

For most people, a little saving is harmless and even comforting. The research also found that the habit often began in childhood or adolescence, and ran in families. But when clutter starts to make rooms hard to use, or letting go causes real distress, it is worth talking to a doctor or therapist. Letting go can also change with age, as psychologists note about <\/span>people over 70 who start passing on their belongings<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to Make Letting Go Easier<\/b><\/h2>\n

Make decisions smaller. Choose one drawer, not a whole room, and set a 15-minute timer. Give yourself three simple options for each item: keep, give, recycle, with no “maybe” pile. Photograph sentimental objects before letting them go, so the memory stays even when the object leaves. And remember that a mistake is rarely permanent; most things can be replaced. Small daily habits say a lot about us, as psychologists note about <\/span>people who leave dishes in the sink<\/span><\/a>. The lesson worth borrowing is that a decision made is lighter than a decision avoided.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Bottom Line<\/b><\/h2>\n

People who can’t throw things away often share one trait, and it has more to do with fear of mistakes than clutter. 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