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When you consider the qualities you value most in those close to you, kindness, goodwill, generosity, and altruism likely come to mind. But what about when you think about the flaws that irritate you the most? Due to its impactful nature, selfishness often tops the list as the most bothersome fault.<\/p>\n

Selfish individuals might grab the biggest slice of cake without considering those who follow, displaying their trait overtly. However, their behavior can also manifest in subtler, yet equally frustrating ways.<\/a><\/p>\n

Distinguishing Between Selfish and Egocentric<\/h2>\n

Selfish and egocentric individuals may exhibit similar tendencies, and one doesn’t necessarily exclude the other. It’s entirely possible to be both selfish and egocentric. “However, there are slight but significant differences between the two,”<\/em> clarifies Saya Des Marais, a therapist for PsychCentral<\/em>.<\/p>\n

While selfish people often intentionally behave in ways that harm others to benefit themselves, egocentric individuals might be so engrossed in their own thoughts<\/a> that they overlook the impact of their actions on others. “Egocentric people may feel more remorse when they realize they’ve hurt someone,”<\/em> she adds.<\/p>\n

Understanding the Selfish Persona<\/h2>\n

Fear not, having acted selfishly doesn\u2019t permanently categorize you among the selfish ones in your circle. We all act selfishly at times. It’s crucial to remember that putting oneself first occasionally is also vital for self-care, especially psychologically. “Most humans fall somewhere along the spectrum between pathological selfishness and extreme altruism,”<\/em> points out Saya Des Marais.<\/p>\n

You might act in your own interest at times, yet also show prosocial or altruistic behaviors at other moments. The roots of selfishness vary. They may stem from family upbringing or the culture of the community one grew up in. It could also be genetic or a symptom of a personality disorder.<\/p>\n

To better understand how selfish people operate, Diane Barth, a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, outlines their personality in two key traits for Psychology Today<\/em>:<\/p>\n