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It\u2019s a delicate moment<\/em>. We meet someone we like, there\u2019s chemistry, and we enjoy spending time together. Sometimes it feels perfect because we see each other often, but this togetherness still doesn\u2019t have a name<\/strong> and seems like a fleeting phase that doesn\u2019t permeate our daily lives.<\/p>\n Casual dating, aka a fling, and having a relationship are very different things, and as we\u2019ll explain, the most important step is (in summary) diving into the real world, focusing on practical actions rather than conjectures.<\/strong><\/p>\n Here\u2019s how to turn a fling into a relationship, keeping in mind that everyone has their own, mostly instinctive, \u201cformula.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n If that instinct isn\u2019t there, well, maybe it\u2019s time to reflect.<\/p>\n Do We Pick Partners Who Resemble Our Parents?<\/a><\/p>\n Let\u2019s assume your fling is going great, and you see each other often. A relationship, however, isn\u2019t just about \u201cseeing\u201d<\/em> each other, but about sharing quality time.<\/strong> What does this mean? It means doing meaningful things together.<\/strong><\/p>\n Special, often unrepeatable experiences are a good start: a trip together, a dinner at a new restaurant, a walk in an unfamiliar part of the city.<\/strong> Quality is also determined by the amount of attention you give to your potential partner.<\/strong> Being on social media while spending time with someone who could become one of the most important parts of your life isn\u2019t a good approach. In fact, it\u2019s not good at all.<\/em><\/p>\n You already know this, but it\u2019s worth repeating: if during your dates you\u2019ve talked about everything except what\u2019s important to you,<\/strong> you\u2019re far from a relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n Do it if you can:<\/em> try to understand the other person\u2019s reactions and listening skills<\/strong> by sharing something about your childhood, things you only tell a few people, your slightly embarrassing passions, and especially the things that move you and make you happy.<\/p>\n There\u2019s no relationship without emotional connection.<\/strong> Try to trust, even if you\u2019ve been hurt. Everyone has vulnerabilities, just like you. Show them.<\/em><\/p>\n One of the biggest signals you can give the person you\u2019re seeing is to invite them into your social (and if relationships with your family are strong, also family) life.<\/strong><\/p>\n We don\u2019t live in isolated compartments, though we often act like we do because life only becomes real in context, among the people who make us feel good.<\/p>\n Introduce without fear who you\u2019re seeing to friends and family.<\/strong> They\u2019ll be a bright mirror to better understand what you feel, what the other person feels, and how others see them. If everything works as it should, you\u2019ll feel an overwhelming enthusiasm and pride.<\/p>\n Navigating Love: Insights from Series’ Characters<\/a><\/p>\n Some people are ready for a relationship after a long time of dating; some understand everything right away.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s the thing:<\/em> a relationship involves two people (yes!)<\/em> and it\u2019s important to be on the same wavelength.<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s essential that the story of your relationship (hopefully, a love story) is on the same page, otherwise an unbridgeable gap will form.<\/p>\n It\u2019s important, even though we know it\u2019s not easy, to focus on your emotions before the formalities.<\/strong><\/p>\n Try to imagine that for some, a relationship is like a \u201cmini-marriage,\u201d<\/em> a step where no papers are signed but where thoughts and (believe us) many past wounds need to be mediated. Be understanding.<\/p>\n We\u2019re all convinced that actions are more important than words, but words clarify and make unequivocal what you want and where you want to go;<\/strong> otherwise, you\u2019ll have to rely only on intuition, which often fails.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not easy to open up and say you want something more \u201cserious,\u201d<\/em> but we believe that the strongest \u201cflowers\u201d<\/em> grow from expressing emotions.<\/p>\n A crucial piece of advice that helps a lot in developing your thoughts is not to think about how much you \u201clove\u201d<\/em> the other person,<\/strong> but more generally what you think of him or her. Love is simple when you break it down into its basic elements: actions, thoughts, behaviors, looks, chemistry, words. What you feel from the sum of these simple things is the transcription of your feelings. Then, express them.<\/p>\n During a fling, caught up in the involvement that permeates every moment of life, we often forget that the other person falls in love with us as individuals,<\/strong> not as \u201cpart of a couple.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Having a strong identity and defending it<\/strong> will be one of the central ingredients for not trivializing the relationship before it even begins.<\/p>\n Remember that in love or out of love, you must also be happy,<\/strong> and if this aspect is missing, the engine of feelings is off and needs repair. And if it\u2019s there, it\u2019s not selfishness: your joy is the most precious gift you can offer.<\/em><\/p>\n This step is crucial:<\/em> being with someone is not a solution to loneliness, but the culmination of who you already are.<\/p>\n Sometimes we want a relationship so badly that we don\u2019t take a careful look at the other person.<\/p>\n All the processes of reflecting and expressing feelings we’ve discussed only work if the word “both”<\/em> frequently appears in the mental tally of pros, even if it’s not perfectly balanced.<\/p>\n Forget the drama; both must believe in the story, with lightness.<\/p>\n Remember that things can go well, even though, we know they often don\u2019t go as we expect.<\/strong><\/p>\n Love is a life experience.<\/em> Sometimes you dive in headfirst; sometimes you reflect too much, but it should remain a game, very serious and very fun at the same time. Life teaches us a sad thing that shouldn\u2019t be sad if we internalize it: nothing is truly forever.<\/em><\/p>\n And precisely for this reason, every moment is to be cherished with joy, desire, filling it with things that ultimately make us say, \u201cWow, how beautiful.\u201d<\/em> Or: \u201cIt\u2019s hard, but… wow, how beautiful!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Think more strongly about the present<\/strong> and less about the past and the future: we\u2019re all in the same boat. With lightness, enjoy the luck, privilege, and beauty of having someone who, today, at this moment, looks at you \u201cwith those eyes\u201d<\/em> and treasure it because it\u2019s a real treasure, no matter what happens.<\/p>\n Did You Know That Going to Therapy Could Help You Find Love?<\/a><\/p>\n Why All Your Partners Are of the Same Zodiac Sign<\/a><\/p>\nHow to Turn a Fling into a Relationship<\/h1>\n
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<\/p>\nIf You Want a Relationship, Start by Spending “Quality Time”<\/em> Together<\/h2>\n
Create a Deep Connection<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYour World Isn\u2019t a Closed Box<\/h2>\n
Don\u2019t Rush Into a Relationship, “Listen to Yourself”<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTalk, Talk, Talk (But Don\u2019t Just Talk)<\/h2>\n
Don\u2019t Forget Yourself, for Everyone\u2019s Sake<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nIf There\u2019s Mutuality and Lightness, Go for It<\/h2>\n