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\"Emily
BEVERLY HILLS, CALIFORNIA – MARCH 12: Adwoa Aboah, Emily Ratajkowski and Olivia Wilde attend the 2023 Vanity Fair Oscar Party Hosted By Radhika Jones at Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts on March 12, 2023 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur\/VF23\/WireImage for Vanity Fair)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

In her latest podcast episode<\/a>, model actress and author Emily Ratajkowski<\/a> talks about handling the breakdown of a friendship, and why kindness plays the key role.<\/p>\n

While a romantic breakdown as a category has its own rulebook when it comes to implementing boundaries \u2014 \u201cI think it\u2019s best we don\u2019t see each other anymore\u201d \u2014 friendships just don\u2019t operate like that. Ratajkowski remembers a time when she felt she needed to end a relationship with a friend.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe were really young when we became friends and we were both modeling. I had just moved to New York for the first time and was about 20 or 21 years old,\u201d she recalls. \u201c[My friend and I] would go out to parties together and we both lived in the East Village and she was really cool. But then I feel like work was going differently for us and I was getting a vibe that maybe she was a little unstable \u2014 it was that vibe of maybe she wasn\u2019t the best person to be hanging out with at that time in my life.<\/p>\n

\u201cI distanced myself from her, and then we hung out again,\u201d she continues. \u201cIt became clear that we weren\u2019t going to become friends and then there was this weird moment where she basically picked up on the fact that I wasn\u2019t into the relationship and wasn\u2019t into her. I tried to cover for it because I didn\u2019t want to hurt her feelings and make her feel like I was being mean. But she got the message and I hurt her feelings.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe weren\u2019t a huge part of each other\u2019s lives but I do think about her a lot. There is a world where she would still be my friend. It’s stressful.\u201d<\/p>\n

\"Emily
BEVERLY HILLS, CALIFORNIA – MARCH 12: Emily Ratajkowski, Anastasia Karanikolaou, Kylie Jenner, and Kendall Jenner attend the 2023 Vanity Fair Oscar Party Hosted By Radhika Jones at Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts on March 12, 2023 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur\/VF23\/WireImage for Vanity Fair)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Citing this article from Psychology Today<\/em><\/a>, Ratajkowski talks about trying to titrate the intensity of the friendship, and how she has personally \u201cput friendships on ice way more times than I\u2019ve ever broken up with anyone.\u201d As she says, sometimes people just float apart.<\/p>\n

\u201cMaybe we\u2019ll fall back into each other\u2019s lives, and I\u2019m open to that,\u201d she says. \u201cBut I don\u2019t want to have a long conversation about why they aren\u2019t giving me what I need at a given point in my life. But I still I love and wish them well.\u201d<\/p>\n

The idea is if you’re seeing that friend twice a week, see them once a week, and then maybe once a month. But if that person isn’t allowing you that space, you need to talk to them.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf there is something about the friendship that you’d like to change, you obviously need to think about the most appropriate way of communicating with them. And then just say, ‘I noticed this thing is happening that I don’t like and it bothers me and it makes me feels bad. Can we change things a little bit.’\u201d<\/p>\n

If it’s not something you can come back from, Ratajkowski says there’s a way to approach things.<\/p>\n

\u201cThere’s no reason to ever list a bunch of things that somebody did that bothered you,\u201d says Ratajkowski. \u201cRespect them and be kind about it. Think about the best way to end it in a kind way.\u201d<\/p>\n

Without giving too much away, there\u2019s more in-depth tips on ending a friendship on Ratajkowski\u2019s episode here.<\/a> It\u2019s worth a listen while you\u2019re pottering about today (especially the part of grieving friendships!).<\/p>\n

\u201cI’m thinking about [my friend] listening to this and what she would think of this,\u201d muses Ratajkowski.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":27,"featured_media":73582,"template":"","format":"standard","categories":[23,16],"yoast_head":"\nEmily Ratajkowski on How to Handle Breaking Up with a Friend<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Model actress and author Emily Ratajkowski talks about handling the breakdown of a friendship, and why kindness plays the key role\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/emily-ratajkowski-friendship-breakdown\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Emily Ratajkowski on How to Handle Breaking Up with a Friend\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Model actress 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