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For De Rankin, a registered nurse and popular social influencer, repressed sexual desires aren\u2019t just dangerous to a person\u2019s health. The psychological damage inevitably spreads to everyone in the frustrated person\u2019s social circle including family and coworkers, according to De, who in just two years has attracted 225,000 active fans and nearly a half-million subscribers across five platforms, including her own website, DeRankin.net.<\/p>\n
\u201cResearch has shown that sexual repression has a detrimental effect on mental health,\u201d says De, a photogenic blonde with a voluptuous build, who earlier in life turned down modeling contracts with Victoria\u2019s Secret and others at the behest of disapproving male relatives (first her father, and then her eventual ex-husband.)<\/p>\n
Instead of modeling, De conceded to family pressure and pursued a medical career. She now serves as head of nursing operations for a large insurance company. In the last few years, she\u2019s also built a huge, avid fan base and a multimillion-dollar business online helping lonely and sexually frustrated people explore their repressed desires with her.<\/p>\n
\u201cA person\u2019s inability to express their desires and feel valued and not shamed causes a cascading affect around them,\u201d she says. \u201cTheir partners, children, coworkers all feel the wrath of the person as they look for other outlets. The worst cases lead to suicide attempts and loss of family members.\u201d<\/p>\n
De\u2019s opinions about the harm caused by suppressed fantasies are backed up by the psychologist and bestselling author of Sex at Dawn<\/em>, Christopher Ryan.<\/p>\n \u201cUnfortunately,\u201d wrote Ryan in Psychology Today, \u201cthe distorted rage resulting from sexual repression rarely takes the form of rebellion against the people and institutions behind the repression. Instead, the rage is generally directed at helpless victims who are sacrificed to the sick gods of guilt, shame, and ignorant pride.\u201d<\/p>\n De designed her page as a safe space for fans to explore secret desires without any physical interaction. She encourages people to test their limits of vulnerability and jealousy, while challenging any harmful effects of repressed sexual rearing from childhood. She coaches her audience to discuss their desires and then virtually explore them within healthy boundaries.<\/p>\n \u201cWhile I can\u2019t share specific details about my fans, I can share some generalizations I have learned over the past two years,\u201d De says. \u201cI\u2019ve found that a lot of men and women are sexually repressed. Afraid to share their inner desires and their true selves with their closest allies, their partners.<\/p>\n \u201cGenerations of sexual repression and guilt have driven us to fear sharing this side of our authenticity and world,\u201d she goes on. \u201cWe are worried our partners will reject us, resent us, or even worse leave us. Our partners when presented with a vulnerable moment of sexual desire can react with their own insecurities. Most question their own values and self-worth.\u00a0 Many question, \u2018Why am I not enough?\u2019 driving a wedge into an authentic expression of desires and vulnerability between the partners. This becomes an ongoing cycle and causes many to refrain from sex for fear of rejection or exploring their partners needs for fear of not being able to fulfill the fantasy.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cThere\u2019s also an enormous amount of people with social anxiety about fear of rejection and will not speak to a potential partner or have just given up,\u201d she says. \u201cThese are just some of the types of fans I deal with on a daily basis.\u201d<\/p>\n De\u2019s fans and followers include many divorced singles who are only looking to have a conversation with someone on an intimate level. One such man was divorced three years ago and has been raising his children alone as a single father. Until recently, he chatted and shared most of his days with De but was committing almost all his time away from work to his children and didn\u2019t have time to date.<\/p>\n Just recently this divorcee went on his first date and it went well. He sent De a note thanking her for the past two years of their relationship and for helping him not to feel alone in the world. \u201cHe said he might be back, but for now wants to give this new relationship an honest try, and to do that he can\u2019t be my fan. I love that!\u201d she says.<\/p>\n Some of her other fans include paraplegics that she chats with regularly. One of these three young people admits that he finds it hard to approach women and that his online relationship with De is giving him greater confidence. \u201cWe have to learn to look past our superficial desires and look deeper into our more intimate desires,\u201d says De.<\/p>\n Other fans of De include people going through serious diseases including one woman whose husband has cancer. She buys videos and sexting sessions for him with De. \u201cHe admits he could never bear to be physically with another woman but this is an amazing gift from her to him during this time,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n There isn\u2019t a day that a woman, man, or couple does not reach out to De for help exploring their desires, she says. This includes women wanting to explore their bi-sexual tendencies, men wanting to involve other men, and couples wanting to trade partners, she adds. But dealing with their shame remains a constant challenge.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s a problem that should be open for discussion across this country, but we don\u2019t,\u201d she says. \u201cI would like to make this not taboo and for people to know it\u2019s okay to explore your sexuality in a healthy way.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":26633,"featured_media":72608,"template":"","format":"standard","categories":[],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2023\/03\/IMG_400961-copy.jpg\")
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