{"id":67688,"date":"2022-11-17T13:40:42","date_gmt":"2022-11-17T13:40:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/?post_type=articles&p=224183"},"modified":"2022-11-17T13:40:42","modified_gmt":"2022-11-17T13:40:42","slug":"pete-davidson-recovery-boyfriend","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/pete-davidson-recovery-boyfriend\/","title":{"rendered":"Pete Davidson Is Hollywood\u2019s \u2018Recovery Boyfriend\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"
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NEW YORK, NEW YORK – MAY 02: (L-R) Pete Davidson and Kim Kardashian attend the 2022 Met Gala Celebrating “In America: An Anthology of Fashion” at The Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 02, 2022 in New York City. (Photo by Sinna Nasseri\/Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Once again, Pete Davidson has been linked with one of the hottest, most successful women in Hollywood. This time it\u2019s recently single Emily Ratajkowski<\/a>, and we\u2019re all obsessed because as soon as it was confirmed that Ratajkowski was splitting from husband Sebastian Bear-McLard, jokes had flown that she\u2019d be with Davidson next. Turns out, we probably weren\u2019t wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

Why did we all joke about these two hooking up? Well, the man has a history. <\/span><\/p>\n

He seems to end up with women who have recently exited relationships. Not exclusively, but there has definitely been a common theme. There was his whirlwind romance with Ariana Grande<\/a>, right after she split from on-again-off-again boyfriend Mac Miller. Then there was Kate Beckinsale, who was finalizing her divorce from Len Wiseman the same year. <\/span>Most famously, there was Kim Kardashian<\/a>, who had recently gone through a very public split with husband Kanye West.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Ariana Grande dated Pete Davidson shortly after her split with on\/off partner Mac Miller. Image: Getty<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I don\u2019t want to talk about \u201chow\u201d Davidson \u201cgets\u201d these women. Because firstly, no one \u201cgets\u201d a woman. We aren\u2019t property. Secondly, attractiveness isn\u2019t binary. You\u2019ll find plenty of people picking apart Davidson\u2019s looks because the women he\u2019s dated are so glamorous and such classic Hollywood beauties. Celebrities, to use the old tabloid headline, are people too \u2014 you don\u2019t have to look like a Ken doll to be desired by a Hollywood star.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What I do want to talk about is <\/span>why<\/span><\/i> these women date Davidson. <\/span><\/p>\n

I think I\u2019ve figured it out: He\u2019s the perfect recovery boyfriend.<\/span><\/p>\n

A recovery boyfriend is the guy you date right after a toxic or tumultuous relationship. Maybe you were with an on\/off type who wore down your confidence over months by never fully committing. They might have been someone you thought was going to be the love of your life, but you ended up having irreconcilable personal differences. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the type of relationship that leaves you in pieces at the end of it. The kind Taylor Swift sings about.<\/span><\/p>\n

A recovery boyfriend isn\u2019t the same as \u201cthe one before The One.”\u00a0 They\u2019re not some throwaway stand-in for a real relationship, someone you know from the outset you don\u2019t give a sh*t about. You can have real feelings for a recovery boyfriend. They\u2019re almost always great, decent people. The recovery boyfriend is usually a laid-back, open and upfront type. <\/span><\/p>\n

T<\/span>hey text you back. They\u2019re easy to read. They make you laugh. You have great sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because they\u2019re so uncomplicated and treat you the way you should be treated, they\u2019re a healing type of relationship. Maybe your self-esteem is shot, or you\u2019ve become cynical about love. Maybe you were with someone who popped in and out of your life, leaving you anxious and obsessing over them. Whatever baggage you\u2019ve carried from your past relationship, you\u2019ll find it breaking down with a recovery boyfriend because they simply don\u2019t play games and like you for who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Fans noticed a change in Kim Kardashian when she started dating Davidson. Image: Getty.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I remember my own experience with a recovery boyfriend. I\u2019d just come out of a three-month relationship that destroyed me. Like, ruined<\/em> me. I\u2019d been seeing this guy, and I fell for him really quickly. At first, he seemed uncomplicated, funny, kind \u2013 but while he was all of those things (well, maybe not uncomplicated) the way he felt about me seemed to fluctuate. Dramatically.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Finding time together was like trying to schedule time with Barack Obama or something. It was always me doing the planning \u2014 where we should go to dinner, when we should hang out. I always stayed at his, he never met my friends. I found myself checking my phone first thing in the morning, then checking every 30 minutes, hoping for a reply to the text I\u2019d sent 48 hours prior. <\/span><\/p>\n

It should have been obvious the relationship had an expiry date. I totally missed the memo.<\/span><\/p>\n

When he dumped me, I fell into a pit of self-loathing. I was at rock bottom \u2014 disordered eating, sleeping with men who treated me terribly, stalking girls online that I thought were now dating my ex. I was obsessive and wounded and hurting. I was seeing a psychologist weekly to work through the mess this guy had left in his wake. <\/span><\/p>\n

Then, I met Greg.<\/span><\/p>\n

Greg was just a guy. He was a lovely guy! But he wasn\u2019t really the kind of guy I\u2019d usually go for. He was very pretty and clean-cut (I had a real thing for men who looked like they\u2019d never showered back then), plus we didn\u2019t really click. But he was funny, attractive and easy to chat with. He organized dates and made me dinners. Most importantly, he always\u00a0<\/em>texted me. It was easy, light, relaxed.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Pete Davidson might be a breath of fresh air in a very narcissistic Hollywood. Image: Getty Images<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I\u2019d come from a relationship that made me feel so small, so unworthy of attention. Now, I was seeing someone who I didn\u2019t have to chase, and who seemed to genuinely enjoy my company. The bar is on the floor, right? But it so often is when we come out of those toxic relationships. The basic right of feeling wanted and cared for? I\u2019d been deprived of it for so long, I started to think I didn\u2019t even deserve it.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the end I probably used Greg a bit, which was unfair. I don\u2019t think it was intentional from the outset, but I definitely continued to date him well past the point where I knew we weren\u2019t right for each other.\u00a0<\/span>But damn, was I addicted to feeling good. I felt\u00a0so special<\/em>. So valued. I\u2019d forgotten what it was like to be <\/span>liked\u00a0 \u2013\u00a0<\/span><\/i>really, consistently liked. Just for being me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eventually Greg and I parted ways. But for the few months we dated, I found my vibe again. He didn\u2019t magically rebuild all my self-esteem, but being with him helped me overcome a lot of that insecurity I\u2019d developed with my ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know this is all sounding very manipulative. I don\u2019t intend it to \u2014 it\u2019s not about going hunting for a recovery boyfriend and hoping they\u2019ll fix you. You should be dating this kind of person because you genuinely want to explore a relationship with them. They could even end up becoming your long-term love.<\/span><\/p>\n

What I\u00a0am<\/em> saying, and what I think might be happening with Davidson and these incredibly beautiful, hugely successful women, is that it\u2019s natural to be drawn to someone who makes you feel a million bucks after an experience that made you feel like less than two pennies.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re like coming up for air when you didn\u2019t realize you were drowning. We\u2019re done with mind games and emotional unavailability and the chase. We just want to date someone who makes us laugh, and have a relationship in which we always know where we stand. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is dating a person who meets your needs. It\u2019s a reminder that \u2014 despite what some other person communicated via their actions \u2014 you are worthy of love, deserve respect and should never settle for less.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So no, you shouldn\u2019t date someone just to heal yourself. But I don\u2019t think that\u2019s the case here, and it wasn\u2019t the case for me. There\u2019s the other question, too. Is Davidson intentionally dating broken women? I don\u2019t think this is the case, either. I think (and I hope I\u2019m right!) that he just is the kind of guy who treats women well, and therefore ends up with really incredible women.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe, in Hollywood, that type of guy is few and far between.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":31333,"featured_media":67734,"template":"","format":"standard","categories":[23,16],"yoast_head":"\nPete Davidson Is Hollywood's 'Recovery Boyfriend'<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Pete Davidson is Hollywood's 'recovery boyfriend' \u2013 the guy you date after a relationship that breaks you. 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