{"id":3523,"date":"2020-10-16T18:00:07","date_gmt":"2020-10-16T18:00:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/?post_type=articles&p=3523"},"modified":"2020-10-16T18:20:04","modified_gmt":"2020-10-16T18:20:04","slug":"most-important-love-lessons-from-sex-and-the-city","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/most-important-love-lessons-from-sex-and-the-city\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Love Lessons We Learned From ‘Sex and the City’"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Actresses Kristin Davis, Sarah Jessica Parker, Cynthia Nixon and Kim Cattrall on the set of “Sex And The City: The Movie” in New York City.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Six seasons of Sex and the City\u00a0<\/em>were full of one-night stands, breakups, and marriages. Watching Carrie Bradshaw, Samantha Jones, Miranda Hobbes, and Charlotte York Goldenblatt navigate their personal lives in New York City was a rollercoaster, to say the very least. Ahead, Grazia is taking a moment to reflect on the ten most important love lessons we learned from the iconic television series.<\/p>\n

Lesson 1: He\u2019s Just Not That Into You<\/h4>\n

Think of how many times we\u2019ve solicited our friends, just like Miranda did with Carrie, Berger, and Charlotte, to agree that there must be some cosmic complication to explain why we\u2019ve been ghosted. \u201cHe\u2019s just not that into you,\u201d Berger blurts out. \u201cIf we\u2019re into ya, we\u2019re coming upstairs, we\u2019re booking the next date. There are no mixed messages.\u201d Instead of shooting the messenger, Miranda finds his words liberating. Clearly, this brilliant advice made an impact on America \u2014 it became a book and then a hit movie!<\/p>\n

Lesson 2: Trust Your Gut\u2026 Not His Jet<\/h4>\n

Samantha and Richard are a match made in Mile High Club heaven. But when he says straight out \u201cI like to sleep around,\u201d you can\u2019t fault him when he reverts to his old tricks and strays. Even more destructive to Sam\u2019s confidence than catching him in the act, though, is her paranoia over Richard\u2019s potential philandering in the future. Her gut instincts kick in and remind us that if you have to worry, it isn\u2019t worth it \u2014 even with a canary-yellow diamond on your finger. \u201cI love you, Richard, but I love me more\u201d is perhaps Samantha\u2019s most honest and affirming moment.<\/p>\n

Lesson 3: Men Are Like Cabs<\/h4>\n

Miranda illuminates a simplistic, yet often ignored dating truth when she likens guys to taxi drivers: \u201cThey wake up one day and they decide they\u2019re ready to settle down, have babies, whatever, and they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up, boom, that\u2019s the one they\u2019ll marry.\u201d When a partner pumps the brakes on meeting your family and planning your shared future, he\u2019s off duty. Better to be back on the market than spin your wheels while the meter\u2019s running.<\/p>\n

Lesson 4: A Flawless Diamond Can\u2019t Hide a Flawed Relationship<\/h4>\n

Carrie\u2019s engagement ring from Aidan is jaw-dropping, but is it enough to say yes to a lifetime together? Fact is, Carrie wants Big. She convinces herself she wants Aidan \u2014 despite his mumble kissing and KFC munching \u2014 but her desire wanes whenever he pulls closer. No wonder she wears her engagement ring on a chain necklace and breaks out in hives while trying on wedding dresses. Listen to your body, even when your mind says, \u201cHe\u2019s the one.\u201d Maybe he isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Lesson 5: Don\u2019t Judge a Book by Its Cover\u2026 Especially Under the Covers<\/h4>\n

It\u2019s only because Charlotte is muddling through a messy divorce that she is open to Harry\u2019s grunting overtures. Miranda lets goofy Steve join her for an all-nighter even though they have little in common. All of these so-called lapse-of-judgment moments eventually lead to marriages. It\u2019s not about lowering standards \u2014 it\u2019s about letting our guard down enough to let the unlikely \u2014 but perfect \u2014 person in.<\/p>\n

Lesson 6: Be Proud to Be Complicated<\/h4>\n

We\u2019re all high maintenance, so what? Thanks to Miranda, Carrie has an epiphany: that the reason Big chooses Natasha is because Carrie is too complicated, like Barbra Streisand\u2019s character in The Way We Were<\/em>. Sure, it\u2019s schmaltzy when Carrie graciously lets Big go in front of the Plaza after his engagement brunch, but it\u2019s also a reminder not to apologize for our unbridled, fiery, passionate natures. Simple, perfectly composed women are overrated. Men who can\u2019t handle the fabulous can step aside<\/p>\n

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Cast members of the television series Sex and the City.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Lesson 7: MIL Hell Is Real<\/h4>\n

Trey\u2019s manipulating mom, Bunny, tests Charlotte from the start, from bed shopping to sitting and smoking by his bath (ewww!) to blocking her dreams of adopting. But clever Charlotte finds Bunny\u2019s Achilles\u2019 heel (her pride in keeping up appearances), nibbles away, and soon usurps her as \u201cthe lady of the house.\u201d MIL relationships are often dicey, even when you don\u2019t have someone like Bunny banging on your door. Watching Charlotte put Bunny in her place is a playbook for any tortured daughter-in-law.<\/p>\n

Lesson 8: Career Competition Isn\u2019t Cute Berger<\/h4>\n

Oh, jealous Berger. He doesn\u2019t want to be \u201cthat guy who\u2019s threatened by her success,\u201d but he is. His fake-supportive face when Carrie shares her fat \u201cadvance from France\u201d isn\u2019t cool. Granted, it\u2019s a tough nut to swallow when your partner is outdoing you in your own industry. But if you\u2019re truly in love, that discomfort should be secondary. Career competition also comes Carrie\u2019s way from Aleksandr Petrovsky, when a party in her honor takes a backseat to his art exhibition. Take it from Carrie: It\u2019s worth a big, messy conversation \u2014 even a breakup.<\/p>\n

Lesson 9: Don\u2019t Point a Finger, Put Out a Hand Lawyer<\/h4>\n

Miranda is a pro at cross-examining and blaming, particularly Steve. According to her, they shouldn\u2019t date because he\u2019s a one-night random; they shouldn\u2019t have a baby because she carries the financial burden, and he shouldn\u2019t propose because their marriage would be a disaster. But had Miranda stayed firm on her \u201cHell, no\u201d points, there would be no Steve in her life, no baby Brady \u2014 and no kinder, compassionate Miranda. Tuning into your heart, having faith in the unexpected, and finding forgiveness is more important than always being right.<\/p>\n

Lesson 10: Girlfriends Are Forever<\/h4>\n

Samantha says it best: \u201cWe made a deal ages ago \u2026 men, babies, it doesn\u2019t matter. We\u2019re soul mates.\u201d Being soul mates doesn\u2019t always mean you\u2019re simpatico, but if we\u2019ve learned anything from watching these four women, it does mean working through the tough stuff and being there for each other. As Big tells the girls before flying to Paris to win back Carrie, \u201cYou\u2019re the loves of her life, and a guy\u2019s just lucky to come in fourth.\u201d Better believe it, Biggie.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":26633,"featured_media":3524,"template":"","format":"standard","categories":[23],"yoast_head":"\nMost Important Love Lessons From 'Sex and the City' | Grazia<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Grazia's reflecting on the top ten love lessons we learned from the 'Sex and the City' cast's roller-coaster relationships through the years.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/most-important-love-lessons-from-sex-and-the-city\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"10 Love Lessons We Learned From 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