{"id":117776,"date":"2026-10-14T07:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-10-14T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/?post_type=articles&#038;p=import-25497-not-sleep-divorce-not-separate-rooms-sca-202610141535"},"modified":"2026-10-14T09:47:15","modified_gmt":"2026-10-14T13:47:15","slug":"not-sleep-divorce-not-separate-rooms-scandinavian-two-duvet-method-is-how-couples-who-fight-over-thermostat-finally-sleep-better-25497-g01","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/not-sleep-divorce-not-separate-rooms-scandinavian-two-duvet-method-is-how-couples-who-fight-over-thermostat-finally-sleep-better-25497-g01\/","title":{"rendered":"Not Sleep Divorce, Not Separate Rooms: The Scandinavian Two-Duvet Method Is How Couples Who Fight Over the Thermostat Finally Sleep Better"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em><strong>It usually starts with a blanket. One partner kicks it off at 2 a.m., the other wakes up shivering, and by spring someone is sleeping on the couch. For a growing number of American couples, the answer has been to sleep in separate rooms. But in much of Scandinavia, couples solved the problem a long time ago, without leaving the bedroom. All it takes is one extra duvet.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<h2><b>How common is &#8220;sleep divorce,&#8221; really?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">More common than most couples admit. In a 2023 survey of 2,005 adults by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, more than a third of respondents said they occasionally or consistently sleep in a separate room from their partner, as reported by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.webmd.com\/sleep-disorders\/news\/20230712\/cm\/study-says-one-third-of-americans-choose-sleep-divorce\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">WebMD<\/a>. Millennials led the trend at 43%, followed by Gen X at 33%, Gen Z at 28% and baby boomers at 22%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Sleep experts are not alarmed. &#8220;It really just means that people are prioritizing sleep and moving into a separate room at night when needed,&#8221; said Dr. Seema Khosla, a pulmonologist and spokesperson for the AASM. But separate rooms also mean losing the closeness many couples value. Which is where the Scandinavian approach comes in.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>What is the Scandinavian sleep method?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The idea could not be simpler: you keep sharing the bed, but not the bedding. &#8220;Instead of sharing one larger duvet, each partner has their own single-sized duvet,&#8221; sleep and body clock scientist Dr. Kat Lederle told <a href=\"https:\/\/womanandhome.com\/health-wellbeing\/scandinavian-sleep-method\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Woman &amp; Home<\/a>. Each person can choose their own weight and fabric, and nobody wakes up because the other one rolled over and took the covers.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">It also solves the most common fight of all: temperature. &#8220;Having a light duvet can help alleviate hot flushes during the night and ease sweating,&#8221; Lederle noted, which makes the method especially popular with women going through menopause.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Why do couples disagree so much about temperature?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Because they often genuinely feel it differently. Research by Boris Kingma and Wouter van Marken Lichtenbelt of Maastricht University, published in <em>Nature Climate Change<\/em>, found that the standard formula used to set office temperatures is based on the metabolic rate of a 40-year-old man weighing about 155 pounds. Women&#8217;s metabolic rates can be 20 to 35% lower, and in a small study of 16 women, their ideal temperature was almost 5\u00b0F warmer than men&#8217;s, as <a href=\"https:\/\/money.cnn.com\/2015\/08\/03\/news\/offices-too-cold-for-women\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">CNN<\/a> reported.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The bedroom is no exception. One partner may need <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/people-who-sleep-better-in-cold-room-under-heavy-blanket-arent-being-difficult-sleep-scientists-explain-what-their-bodies-already-know-25497-g01\/\">a cold room and a heavy blanket<\/a><\/strong> to fall asleep, while the other is too warm under a single comforter. Two duvets let each of you set your own temperature without touching the thermostat, which, as we explained in <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/the-department-of-energy-says-68f-is-the-ideal-thermostat-setting-this-fall-but-your-bedroom-needs-a-different-number-25497-g01\/\">our guide to fall thermostat settings<\/a><\/strong>, is already a compromise.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>How to try it tonight<\/b><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><b>Buy two single or twin-size duvets<\/b> instead of one queen or king. Each should cover one person comfortably.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><b>Choose different weights if needed:<\/b> a light one for the partner who runs hot, a warmer or heavier one for the partner who is always cold.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><b>Keep one fitted sheet<\/b> for the bed, and fold each duvet separately in the morning, the Scandinavian way, without a top sheet.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><b>Give it a week.<\/b> It can feel odd at first, but most couples notice fewer wake-ups once nobody is fighting for the covers.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><b>The bottom line<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Sleeping apart is no longer a sign that something is wrong, and more than a third of Americans already do it at least some of the time. But before anyone moves to the guest room, there is a cheaper, warmer compromise. In Scandinavia, it has been sitting on the bed all along: one duvet each.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":42690,"featured_media":117780,"template":"","format":"standard","categories":[2723],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v18.5 (Yoast SEO v20.4) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Scandinavian Two-Duvet Method for Couples Who Sleep Badly<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Over a third of Americans sometimes sleep apart from their partner. 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