{"id":117157,"date":"2026-10-05T11:49:20","date_gmt":"2026-10-05T15:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/psychologists-say-people-who-get-along-with-everyone-share-these-8-phrases-are-you-using-them-yet\/"},"modified":"2026-10-05T11:49:20","modified_gmt":"2026-10-05T15:49:20","slug":"psychologists-say-people-who-get-along-with-everyone-share-these-8-phrases-are-you-using-them-yet","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/psychologists-say-people-who-get-along-with-everyone-share-these-8-phrases-are-you-using-them-yet\/","title":{"rendered":"Psychologists Say People Who Get Along With Everyone Share These 8 Phrases \u2014 Are You Using Them Yet?"},"content":{"rendered":"

People Who Get Along With Almost Everyone Use These Eight Phrases<\/h2>\n

You know that person at the rooftop launch who drifts from the PR girl to the CFO to the DJ and somehow has a real conversation with every single one. She is not necessarily the funniest, or in full runway look. Yet people light up when she walks over, and you are left wondering what secret charm school she attended.<\/p>\n

The less glamorous truth: it is mostly language. Research on active listening<\/a>, compliments and conversation depth shows that a handful of short sentences can change how safe, seen and celebrated people feel around you. “The right words can build rapport, foster trust, and make you more approachable,” psychologist Ernesto Lira de la Rosa says. By the end of this piece, you will have eight pocket phrases you can pull out at a board meeting, a Bumble date or a wedding seating disaster.<\/p>\n

Why These Phrases Work On Everyone<\/h2>\n

Our brains are wired to scan for danger or belonging. When someone remembers your name, validates your feelings or celebrates your win, your reward system lights up \u2013 dopamine, warmth, the whole thing. That is why sincere compliments feel like a hit of espresso for the soul.<\/p>\n

A 2014 study on active listening found that when we feel truly heard, reward regions in the brain activate, even during mundane chat. Another study in Psychological Science<\/i> linked deeper, more substantive conversations<\/a> with higher well-being. Add in findings from PubMed-indexed work showing that people underestimate how good their compliments make others feel \u2013 and how good giving them will make them<\/i> feel \u2013 and you have the science behind social magic.<\/p>\n

The Eight Phrases Everyone Loves To Hear<\/h2>\n

One. “Tell Me More About That”<\/h3>\n

This is the social equivalent of opening more doors rather than talking over people. Instead of hijacking the topic with your own story, you hand them the mic again. Use it when a colleague mentions a stressful project or a friend hints at family drama and you sense more under the surface.<\/p>\n

Two. “I Am So Interested In That”<\/h3>\n

Likable people do not perform interesting; they make you<\/i> feel interesting. Saying you are genuinely curious \u2013 and following with one or two thoughtful questions \u2013 tells someone their world is worth airtime. It is perfect when a date starts geeking out about a niche hobby or your sister shares her new side business.<\/p>\n

Three. “Remind Me Of Your Name”<\/h3>\n

Everyone forgets names; almost no one admits it gracefully. Owning it, getting the reminder, then actually using their name softens the awkwardness and signals respect. At a packed SS26 preview or networking event, pairing it with something specific \u2013 “Remind me of your name, I loved your question in the panel” \u2013 makes it land.<\/p>\n

Four. “It Is So Great To See You”<\/h3>\n

This tiny sentence says: you matter, your presence changes the room. It is endlessly versatile \u2013 from running into an ex-colleague in line for coffee to greeting your partner coming home late from a flight. Upgrade it with one detail, like “It is so great to see you, I needed this energy today.”<\/p>\n

Five. “I Am Listening”<\/h3>\n

These three words are only powerful if your phone is face down and your eyes are up. Research on active listening shows that being visibly present activates those reward pathways and reduces defensiveness. Use it when a teammate is spiraling about feedback, or when a friend starts a sentence with “This might sound silly but\u2026”<\/p>\n

Six. “That Is Incredible, Congratulations”<\/h3>\n

Instead of one-upping someone\u2019s win with your own, dwell on theirs. Compliment research shows that celebrating people\u2019s achievements boosts dopamine on both sides. Try “That is incredible, congratulations \u2013 you worked so hard for that promotion” or “I am so happy for you, tell me everything.”<\/p>\n

Seven. “I Can Understand That”<\/h3>\n

Validation is not the same as agreement. Saying “I can understand that” or “That makes sense” tells someone their reaction is legitimate, even if your take is different. When you genuinely do agree, “You are right about that” is quietly disarming \u2013 it lowers the status tug-of-war and invites collaboration.<\/p>\n

Eight. “We Do Not Have To Say Anything”<\/h3>\n

Social stars are not always the chattiest; they know when to protect silence. Offering quiet company \u2013 on the couch after a brutal day, in the Uber after bad news \u2013 removes the pressure to perform. It tells the other person their worth is not tied to being charming or upbeat for you.<\/p>\n

How To Use Them Without Sounding Fake<\/h2>\n

At work, sprinkle these phrases into moments that genuinely call for them. In a tense meeting, “That makes sense, tell me more about where you are stuck” lands far better than a rushed solution. When a junior colleague nails a deck, “That is incredible, congratulations” in front of others costs you nothing and buys loyalty.<\/p>\n

With friends and partners, think less script, more intention. If you are socially drained, you can ride one or two phrases all evening \u2013 “Tell me more about that” and “I am listening” \u2013 and let other people do most of the talking. For anyone grieving or burned out, “We do not have to say anything” can be more loving than a TED Talk\u2019s worth of advice.<\/p>\n

The only rule: mean it. People can smell flattery used like a sales tactic. If “You are right” is not honest, try “I can see how you would see it that way” instead. Keep the psychological purpose \u2013 curiosity, validation, celebration, safety \u2013 and translate the exact wording into your own voice.<\/p>\n

One Minute Cheat Sheet<\/h2>\n
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  • “Tell me more about that” \u2013 when there is clearly more to the story<\/li>\n
  • “I am so interested in that” \u2013 when someone\u2019s eyes light up on a topic<\/li>\n
  • “Remind me of your name” \u2013 at busy events, then use it right away<\/li>\n
  • “It is so great to see you” \u2013 to make arrivals and reunions feel special<\/li>\n
  • “I am listening” \u2013 when someone risks vulnerability or frustration with you<\/li>\n
  • “That is incredible, congratulations” \u2013 any time someone shares a win<\/li>\n
  • “I can understand that” \u2013 to validate feelings, even in disagreement<\/li>\n
  • “We do not have to say anything” \u2013 when comfort matters more than conversation<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"author":42690,"featured_media":117156,"template":"","format":"standard","categories":[3914],"yoast_head":"\nPsychologists Say People Who Get Along With Everyone Share These 8 Phrases \u2014 Are You Using Them Yet? - Grazia USA<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/psychologists-say-people-who-get-along-with-everyone-share-these-8-phrases-are-you-using-them-yet\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Psychologists Say People Who Get Along With Everyone Share These 8 Phrases \u2014 Are You Using Them Yet?\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"People Who Get Along With Almost Everyone Use These Eight Phrases You know that person at the rooftop launch who drifts from the PR girl to the CFO to the DJ and somehow has a real conversation with every single one. 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