{"id":1166,"date":"2020-04-28T15:55:14","date_gmt":"2020-04-28T05:55:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/?post_type=articles&#038;p=171830"},"modified":"2020-11-17T16:00:23","modified_gmt":"2020-11-17T16:00:23","slug":"carrie-bradshaw-post-it-break-up","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/us\/articles\/carrie-bradshaw-post-it-break-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Could Carrie\u2019s Post-It Break-Up Actually Be Accepted In These Pandemic Times?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_171831\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-171831\" style=\"width: 700px\" class=\"wp-caption alignfull -width\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-171831 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Screen-Shot-2020-04-28-at-3.54.40-PM-Cropped.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"700\" height=\"393\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-171831\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Pinterest<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Ah, yes, the \u201cpost-it episode.\u201d A quick recap for the uninitiated: In season six of <em>Sex And The City<\/em>, Carrie Bradshaw was unceremoniously broken up with by a very confusing and immature guy named Berger, via a Post-it. \u201cI\u2019m sorry, I can\u2019t. Don\u2019t hate me,\u201d it read.<\/p>\n<p>The moment has forever been pinned by <em>SATC<\/em> loyalists as one of Carrie\u2019s most relatable. For singles, it represents a very specific point in a relationship where one realizes the person they\u2019ve invested time and energy into doesn\u2019t care enough about them to end things in person. It\u2019s cowardly and weak \u2013 sure. But it\u2019s also hurtful and disrespectful. Most of us, after all, want to always be able to tip our cap to the time we had with someone \u2013 and we most definitely can\u2019t do that if they drop your belongings on the front porch without explanation or write you seven words on a yellow sticky-note.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou can have the guts and the courtesy to tell a woman to her face that you no longer want to see her. Call me crazy, but I think you can make a point about ending a relationship that does not include an email, a doorman or a missing person\u2019s report,\u201d says Carrie in a scene which honestly stayed with me most of my adult life. \u201cI think you can all get over your fear of looking like the bad guy and actually have the uncomfortable break-up conversation because here\u2019s what: avoiding that makes you the bad guy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Sex and the City - The Post-It Breakup\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/vPhCvyb5jeQ?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>This episode aired in 2003 when iPhones weren\u2019t life and COVID-19 was still just a tiny pathogen inside a bat in China. Flash-forward to 2020 and the global pandemic has given rise to a new type of dating: Zoom calls. If things heat up, a two-week isolation stay will follow where you will either a) thrive and be less concerned with Lysol-ing the remote control or b) hit de facto status way too soon and get bored with UberEats.<\/p>\n<p>But it\u2019s the aftermath: In these pandemic times \u2013 where face-to-face communication isn\u2019t really allowed unless you\u2019re dating at Whole Foods \u2013 is there a good way to break-up with someone?<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Sex and The City - Carrie tells you how to break up with someone\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9U7n_ueBRZo?start=79&#038;feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>\u201cBeing in quarantine is not only accelerating relationships, it\u2019s allowing you to see people for who they really are a lot quicker,\u201d says Michelle, 37, single and in quarantine in New York City.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If you&#8217;ve just been talking to them online, then a text or note is fine. But if you&#8217;ve met up a few times and actually had dinner at theirs, they need to pick up the phone,&#8221; says Ariana, 28, also single and in quarantine in New York City.<\/p>\n<p>If Berger were ending things with Carrie in 2020, would we still think of him as the bad guy? Is an unattended Zoom date the new ghosting? Is a text the new Post-it? And is a text actually OK right now?<\/p>\n<p>These questions are rhetorical because any type of break-up should always involve a phone call at the very least. If they can\u2019t give you that, it\u2019s because they don\u2019t want to and all the more reason to let it be. And if you\u2019re really down, you can always get high (not actually condoned), get arrested and get ice-cream like Carrie. 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