{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Grazia Middle East","provider_url":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/me","author_name":"Olivia Morris","author_url":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/me\/author\/oliviamorris\/","title":"Second Self: Who Are We When We Stop Trying To Please Everyone?","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"pniEVkc9vk\"><a href=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/me\/articles\/people-pleasing-losing-yourself\/\">Second Self: Who Are We When We Stop Trying To Please Everyone?<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/me\/articles\/people-pleasing-losing-yourself\/embed\/#?secret=pniEVkc9vk\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;Second Self: Who Are We When We Stop Trying To Please Everyone?&#8221; &#8212; Grazia Middle East\" data-secret=\"pniEVkc9vk\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/* <![CDATA[ *\/\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/* ]]> *\/\n<\/script>\n","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/graziamagazine.com\/me\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/16\/2026\/10\/Second-self.png","thumbnail_width":1280,"thumbnail_height":720,"description":"In Jungian psychology, the shadow is the self we disown. It\u2019s comprised of the parts we bury because we\u2019ve decided they\u2019re unacceptable. We tend to picture it as our darkness. But the shadow hides our light too: the vitality, the warmth, the joy we exile for being too much. In this personal essay, Olivia Morris explores the ways she\u2019s spent a life shrinking herself \u2013 and the unglamorous work of letting the original one back out."}