Chrissy Teigen and John Legend are dealing with the worst thing that could happen to a parent: the loss of a child. After Teigen was hospitalised due to complications with her third pregnancy, she later shared a heartbreaking post to Instagram saying that the couple had lost the baby, a boy they had named Jack.
Following the post, thousands of people shared their support for the couple, including celebrities such as Kim Kardashian, Channing Tatum and Hailey Baldwin. “We’re always here for you and love you guys so much,” Kardashian wrote in the comments of Teigen’s Instagram post. Gabrielle Union added, “We love you guys so much and we will be here for whatever yall need. Always.” Bieber wrote, “I’m so so sorry,” “Thinking of you and John, praying for you guys and sending you so much love during this time.”
But others took it upon themselves to take a stab at the grieving pair for sharing their news publicly, despite Teigen being famous for being unfiltered and honest with her fans, the fact that if she didn’t share her news, the media would, and, more importantly: how common miscarriage and stillbirths are for women worldwide.
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We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough. . . We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever. . . To our Jack – I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you. . . Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, thoughts and prayers. We feel all of your love and truly appreciate you. . . We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience. But everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.
Now, people are coming to Teigen’s defense, including the late Robin Williams’ daughter, Zelda Williams, who wrote on Twitter, “However someone chooses to grieve, publicly or privately, is VALID. Grief will fill a room if you let it, and spill out of every window and door. Let people grieve however they choose, not however you believe they should, and hope the world returns the favor for you one day.”
However someone chooses to grieve, publicly or privately, is VALID. Grief will fill a room if you let it, and spill out of every window and door. Let people grieve however they choose, not however you believe they should, and hope the world returns the favor for you one day.
— Zelda Williams (@zeldawilliams) October 1, 2020
Another person wrote, “Women are trained not to talk about living in a female reproductive body. About periods, and cramps, and sex, and miscarriages, and birth control and abortion. And the feelings that go with it. God bless @chrissyteigen for not hiding her pain and demanding we all talk about it.”
Teigen choosing to share her and her family’s grief publicly has opened up the conversation for countless women. Personal stories of grief are being shared online in digital features and on social media, helping thousands of people around the world who have suffered a pregnancy loss to feel less alone. Teigen’s post was selfless. It was raw, it was real and it was essential in moving a much-needed conversation forwards.